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#1 ChelseaBrick

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 13:55

mi·sog·y·ny   [mi-soj-uh-nee, mahy-]  
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hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women.

 

 

I know to many of you, this will just be laughed off.  I also realize this thread will make me an even bigger target. However, I feel that this is a statement that needs to be made.

 

Behind each and every character is a real person.  A real person that is happy, sad, successful, struggling...the list goes on and on.  Someone who you may never know personally nor ever care to. Someone who might have the perfect life or someone who has been to hell and back.  The point is, while many of you hide behind a facade, many play as themselves.

 

I for one, play as I am in real life...quiet, shy and caring about others.  I know I'm not popular on the game, but I don't care to be.  I just want to be someone that helps people when I can, whether it be making potions or assisting with a dungeon run.  I have a nice life.  I'm in a beautiful relationship, I have a wonderful family, successful career and the amazing experiences I've had, well, I'd never trade them for anything in the world.  I've also been through a lot of shit in my life that I'd never wish on my worst enemy.  

 

With that being said, no one knows what anyone else has been through.  It's easy to forget that there is a real person behind every character.  Some don't give a crap about things that are said to them.  Others, like myself, take every single word to heart.  

 

Being a woman in this game, not a male that plays a girl toon, but a real woman alone makes me a target. For whatever reason, the latest simply being named "Chelsea" made me a target of hurtful comments. For more times than I wish to recall in this game, I have been labeled "slut," "whore" and "bimbo."  Anyone who knows me in game knows I am not flirtatious. Yet, degrading, humiliating and sexually offensive terms are thrown around.  I know I am not the only woman who is at the receiving end of these insults. It seems to be the "go to" insult that men like to take.  It's misogynisitic and it must stop.  

 

People need to realize that words do cut like a knife and hurt deeper than you can possibly understand.  I won't elaborate on why I am so sensitive, that's too personal.  When someone so carelessly throws those words at me, it hurts deep.  I will take offense.  I may not defend myself eloquently, but through the tears I will try to defend myself.  That makes me, yet an even greater target.  The point is, you don't know what someone has experienced.  You just don't.  Any word implying that a woman is a slut is a form of sexual harassment.  It's not acceptable.  

 

I know many will see this and say "she only wants attention."  I really don't care about what you think in that aspect, it just needed to be said.  I won't be checking my comments on this thread, in fact, I'm expecting it to be removed because it exposes an ugly aspect of this game.  

 

Just be respectful to each other, that's all.

 

 

 

 

 

 


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Posted 05 July 2014 - 14:00


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Posted 05 July 2014 - 14:09

Just in case that is taken the wrong way, it is a joke Chels. Everyone knows there are no real women on the internet, only 55 year old fat men... scientific fact.  :P


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#4 Susej

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 14:49

I can only say chealsea to play the game with ease and just ignore some troll players.

 

They trive on attention and will fell sad if you just ignore them.

 

And  for the one of today he like to gather in TA so lets hit him up afew thousand times and not let him gather in TA i will help if needed.


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Posted 05 July 2014 - 14:53

lol, if you get ticked/pissed off by a random person on the net. You need some help.


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Posted 05 July 2014 - 14:57

having no idea what happened, but being a father to a daughter

 

i might suggest changing your profile pic 



#7 Susej

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 15:05

having no idea what happened, but being a father to a daughter

 

i might suggest changing your profile pic 

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 15:35

I don't know why you didn't just ignore me, i talk trash to everyone 24/7.  I just thought by now everyone realised by now I have verbal diahrea. I don't know if you were just having a bad day or are really ultra sensitive, just relax, put me on ignore, or tell me to go f myself.  Distance yourself, realise im just some person sending you pixels (and I didn't call you a slut or insinuate it in any way, I just used the word bimbo), I just hope tomorrow when you wake up you will think back and realise this is ridiculous and you can laugh off 1 out of 1billion internet trash talkers.



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Posted 05 July 2014 - 15:48

I know how you feel. Though I haven't been playing as much, I still have seen a few comments but have seen a lot more other comments in other games.

The most important thing would be to always be yourself. :)

Sometimes I find it helps to look at it from another perspective like sometimes people would say these things because they are jealous or envy you. There are other reasons like low self esteem too.

Most importantly, those people probaly don't know you, and there is no reason to be judging a person like that on a game.

Like the saying goes...

"If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all"...


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#10 Neon

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 15:59

Lol

 

And this is why so many "hardcore players" hate this community, this isn't a gaming forum/community its a place for people to be little bitches and cry about everything in the hopes to get some attention.


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#11 Dasan

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 16:18

haha :D

To the topic, just ignore internet fighters, in real they just old, fat virgins that have problems with themselves, u should just ignore that sort of people :P Or find emm in TA when they gather :D


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#12 HolyGhost

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 17:23

I've been called tons of offensive language on the net and so has my girlfriend, I usually tell the other person to f off and say some other stuff and move on

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 18:57

 

mi·sog·y·ny   [mi-soj-uh-nee, mahy-]  
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hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women.

 

Being a woman in this game, not a male that plays a girl toon, but a real woman alone makes me a target. For whatever reason, the latest simply being named "Chelsea" made me a target of hurtful comments. For more times than I wish to recall in this game, I have been labeled "slut," "whore" and "bimbo."  Anyone who knows me in game knows I am not flirtatious. Yet, degrading, humiliating and sexually offensive terms are thrown around.  I know I am not the only woman who is at the receiving end of these insults. It seems to be the "go to" insult that men like to take.  It's misogynisitic and it must stop.  

 

Just be respectful to each other, that's all.

 

Also the first time this happened, it happened when you presented an ass kick so great in pvp  to someone we all know, that he showed eldevin world how childish he is.

 

Again ignore them the more you talk to them the more they will continue to bash, those type of arguments in the world chat make newbies shy away from the game.

 

So i will use hijack this treat to reenforce the suggestion of chat moderators.

http://forums.hunted...593&hl=moderato

 

Regards


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#14 Bryn

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 20:43

Probably not misogyny.  It more likely that one or more of the following apply:

 

1.  Troll - In Internet slang, a troll is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, either accidentally or with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response.
 
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Posted 05 July 2014 - 20:50

 

Probably not misogyny.  It more likely that one or more of the following apply:

 

1.  Troll - In Internet slang, a troll is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, either accidentally or with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response.
 
2.  Nerd - A foolish or contemptible person who lacks social skills.
 
3.  Prepubescent - Someone who is yet to start puberty.

 

 

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#16 Oops

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Posted 05 July 2014 - 23:35

I deal with it in this manner I ask if they are talking to me if so I just ignore them because even though it might upset me I will be damned if I will let them know they upset me lol and if hubby sees it he deals with it for me lol 



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Posted 06 July 2014 - 14:03

lol, if you get ticked/pissed off by a random person on the net. You need some help.

what he said

 

if you are using the internet and this game as a sort of escapism and its not working out, you really need to change your perspective of things, if you care too much about everything, you will feel bad 99% of the time

 

look around the internet about "how not to give a f**k" or something like this


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Posted 06 July 2014 - 15:49

You know, the whole victim routine doesn't really work anymore.

 

In fact, I just showed your post to my wife who rolled her eyes and said, "That girl needs to grow up."

 

Seriously, give it a rest.



 


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Posted 06 July 2014 - 15:53

You know, the whole victim routine doesn't really work anymore.

 

In fact, I just showed your post to my wife who rolled her eyes and said, "That girl needs to grow up."

 

Seriously, give it a rest.

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Was the point of the statement ;) so the victim insult doesn't really apply when one uses their own negative situation to start a movement towards the positive  :rolleyes:

Now..if she said..I want these people banned because they tease me etc..then you could use that kind of statement...but that isn't the case X D so i'll give some time to try again with a better reply.


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Posted 06 July 2014 - 16:58

Ok. I don't want this thread to descend further  into personal attacks so I am going to lock it for now.

 

A reminder that we don't tolerate personal abuse or attacks on each other. Claiming it's just trash talk, "I'm just like that" or "It's the internet" are not acceptable excuses for being deliberately awful to your fellow players. The game is online - the players are not. Chelsea is correct that real people sit behind the keyboards, including the developers, and we don't enjoy being forced to spend our time disciplining players when we could be making the game even better for our community. Most of the people in the Eldevin community are awesome, positive, helpful people and we would much rather be working with them than against the small percentage of players who enjoy upsetting others.

 

If this policy doesn't agree with some players who have mistaken being hardcore for being unpleasant and disruptive for kicks, or who somehow think they can't control what they type into their keyboards, they are welcome to find another game to play.


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